We weren’t meeting up for quickies as some people might assume.There was intimacy and affection and shared confidences.He also warned that a woman who selected casual sex might set off a warning bell in the minds of many men.“I’d say there are two assumptions: one is that a woman, no matter what she says, is always ‘looking’ for a more-than-sexual relationship should one present itself, and two is that a woman can get ‘just sex’ pretty much anytime she wants, without much effort.As long as he made an effort to complete his profile and post pictures that didn’t appear to be from some ’80s era shoot, I didn’t care. First, just because someone chooses casual sex doesn’t mean they’re looking for a one-night stand.A person’s willingness to be open about that interest should not be held against them or get them labeled a player or slut.I got invites to gang bangs, 7am face sitting requests, and the occasional offer to lick my calves.I told a close male friend of my experience and he said that, with the casual sex option checked, some men see no point in playing the game and just get right to it.
I made sure I traded enough emails to discern what their relationship/living situation was.
I don’t give men credit for “refreshing honesty.” In fact, I shave points off for revelations like that. Another male friend said that it was better to just choose long-term/short-term dating and new friends.
That way, he explained, I wouldn’t be on the radar of guys who think invites to pull a train are welcome.
I ended up dating three men during this time for 3-6 months each.
We did “couple-y” things like go to the movies, make dinner, and spend weekends together.