John’s protestations that the entire matter was just a game and not real did him no good.Lisa terminated the relationship – for her the issue that John preferred virtual sex with a man to genuine sex with her was just too demeaning.They are emotionally distanced, disinterested and less prepared to invest in the relationship.
My partner is constantly griping at me and is rarely interested in sex? According to researchers, here the allure is primarily found in three aspects of the cyber affair.
Instead having to deal with the dry reality of my relationship and the potentially irritating conflicts I seek refuge in a fantasy world where I have maximal control over the (prevailing) events. A clever Internet-operators as for instance Yahoo already even offer platforms especially targeting married folks who are looking for a little excitement on the side (for instance marriedandflirtingchat.com).
Obviously, that represents a high potential for addiction! or maybe even assuming an entirely new virtual identity and with it do everything that one would have never dared do in real life? At first blush these “little escapades” leaving every-day-life and the real partnership behind may appear to be harmless, but they are by no means that.
They react dismissively or aggressively and with increased withdrawal to inquiries or reproaches.
Secrecies and lies increasingly characterize the communication with their partner.