But you have to improve your marriage behavior if you want success. The first reaction in your mind, when you make such a harsh threatening discovery is going to be self-protective, accompanied by fear; these are primal.
Third: Your marriage is not over, unless you choose it to be. You must change your behaviors of thought, feeling, speech, and actions. Reading a book or two, even one of mine, will likely not be enough. When you discover your husband is using online dating sites you will automatically assume the worst, imagining he is following through, and meeting other women. That is probably not happening, but it is not too late for your marriage, even if he is.
I created the SEW technique because I found that people were trapped by their subconscious habits.
Your husband didn’t do what he did because he hates you.
If that were the case, or if he were mad as hell at you, he would have helped you catch him and then rubbed your face in it.
Even when someone KNOWS something is detrimental they will do what they always do.
So, anyone who tells you that all you have to do is this, or that, and everything will be fine, is asking too much. It helps you bring control over your mind, so you can do what is necessary, with a clear head.