Women, on the other hand, prefer guys closer to their own age.In September, a study of 12,000 Finns reaffirmed what prior research had already established. If dudes were really so set on their caveman-era mating habits, wouldn’t we see more single ladies over 30 home knitting tea cozies on Friday nights?She let it slip to me (I'm 28 FWIW) when she had had one too many beers at a party exacting a promise that I wasn't to tell our mother.Well I told my older sister and she told my mother so technically I didn't tell but my mother doesn't know what to do.The age gaps spanned anywhere from 10 to 14 years, with women in their late 40s and early 50s enjoying relationships and/or marriage with men in their late 20s or 30s. Couples in this situation had to address the fertility concern head-on, with some choosing to take the leap relatively quickly while others took a pass.And then there’s also the concern about one’s looks.Pop star Shakira is involved with a man 10 years her junior.Actor Hugh Jackman has been married to Deborra-Lee Furness for 17 years. A recent article in magazine looked at a handful of real-life May-December romances, focusing mainly on those between older women and younger men.
He ended a long-term relationship last year (non live-in) and I was glad when he said he'd met someone who really "did it for him"- bright, vivacious, intellectual and, I just learned when I met her- 19 years old. (He's technically a professor but he's non-teaching, so she's not ever going to be in any of his classes, so that's not an issue.) Hmmm...
My younger sister has a history of telling lies about who she's socialising with and what she gets up to when she goes out and despite numerous talks with her six older siblings (she's the youngest in the family) she can't seem to see the problem with this.
OK part of me says it's her life and she should do what she wants, and we can't lock her up because she's not a minor anymore, but I honestly do question the motivation of the average 35 year old man who wants to go out with a 19 yr old.
I'm curious to see what others think: if you had friends in this type of relationship, would you think "She's a BABY! My parents had an 18 year age difference (she was 16 and he was 34 when they married [and he was her high-school teacher]- this was rural Alabama in the early 1950s when that wasn't so scandalous) and the marriage lasted for 30 years. (It wasn't a happy union, it's just that its unhappiness got tenure.) How much of my parents' unhappiness was based in the age difference I don't know, but I can't shake the feeling that when a guy goes after a gal half-his-age, however else he may justify it the lust for firm young flesh is high on the list of REAL motivations (not to say that he can't be intellectually attracted as well). Maybe you would do well to adopt my motto: I don't care WHAT you do, as long as you don't do it to me. at a small Liberal Arts College in New England, I'll say this. On the other hand, this does seem a bit icky to me. Before I started dating men twenty years older than me, I dated men the same age as myself, and one much younger.
" or would you think "one can't control where the heart will lead"? My husband's second wife was 17 years younger than him. I'm honestly not sure what motivates a 19 year old girl to go after a guy twice her age (it's definitely not money with this kid as judging by her car and clothes she's from a very well-to-do family). Or what I tell my kids- you worry about YOURself, and let others worry about THEMselves. Wht he is doing is very taboo among the upper echelon of college profs. It is not advisable to date students at your institution, and though I have personal objections to the age difference, in this situation it is more of a professional indecency. I'm honestly not sure what motivates a 19 year old girl to go after a guy twice her age (it's definitely not money with this kid as judging by her car and clothes she's from a very well-to-do family). Makes me wonder if this girl knows what she is doing, but hey! ;) In conclusion, this is none of our business, so let's just give a little shudder and forget about it.