" The next step was a book proposal (a year-long writing project), and with that I found a literary agent who would open the doors to the publishing houses.
Acquiring a top-notch literary agent and waiting through a handful of rejections from publishing houses took tenacity, but hey, I'm the girl who went on 121 first dates, I knew it just took time to find the right one.
We learned that love isn't enough for a solid relationship and that it's important to pick and choose your battles. Then we started to wonder: What's the most obviously relationship advice out there?
Because what that means is that you are a needy person, and you need the other person to express their neediness to you. When’s the last time you respected an emotionally needy person, much less found them attractive? "I don’t need my wife, which frees me up to want her. I could do life without her; I don’t want to do life without her." "Nonsense.
"And our relationship is going to be built on each other’s willingness and ability to meet the neediness of the other, which just sounds to me like two ticks without a dog, just sucking the life out of each other.
The most difficult part was finding (and walking) the path of traditional publishing.
After I finished the book in early 2013, I thought, "well now what?