I have found that dating divorced men with children to be an amazing experience for myself, as well as my friends and clients who are now single women with children of their own.In my 20s, almost all of my relationships failed because I chose not to have children of my own. Yes, I knew that he was divorced and had two children, but just knowing that he did want kids was to overcome the first hurdle of dating him.Naturally, as we grow fabulously older, women are going to meet many more divorced men than we did in our 20s.Despite your age differences, you and potential partners are consenting adults who each deserve to be treated as such.Refrain from using older mates as father-figures or caretakers.
They have taken out my garbage, carried my luggage, taken my car for an oil change, cooked me dinner, talked about my day at work and brought me breakfast in bed.
It's important to determine if you and an older beau are compatible with one another on an experiential level -- frustrations may arise if you and your mate can't relate to one another's cultural references, or if your partner treats you more like a student than an equal romantic partner, due to his vast life experience.
If there is a significant age difference between you and potential partners -- about 20 years or so -- then it's possible these older men have children that are close to you in age.
Two Of Us, a subsidiary of The National Healthy Marriage Resource Center, an information resource for healthy marriages, says that having a long-term relationship with a significantly older partner presents the possibility that you may outlive him.
Additionally, there is the chance that your mate may develop chronic or terminal health issues that would require you to take on the role of caretaker, which, according to Paula Span in a 2012 New York Times article, can take a heavy emotional and psychological toll on you. Nola Mokeyane has written professionally since 2006, and has contributed to various online publications, including "Global Post" and Modern Mom.