I’ve often been called by my critics, “The Chief Bed Wench,” because I’m seen at the forefront of this issue. But many Black women are sensitive to that kind of insult and outright disapproval. We want the people in our lives to approve of the men we bring home. It comes down to what makes you happy and what makes your heart feel like it’s found its home.It kind of throws a damper on the inclination to explore interracial dating if you know your parents said they would disown you if you ever brought home a white boy. I’m seeing more and more Black women finding their bliss with the men who love and accept them, regardless of race. If you’re lonely and sad, but your entire peer group (including family) approves of the idea of never dating a non-Black man even if he was utterly kick-ass amazing, can you really say those people in your life want the best for you?When I started dating my husband back in 1999, there was absolutely no place, discussion or support for Black women who were dating and/or married interracially.Necessity is the mother of invention when it comes to the work I do!Candice: There seems to be a stronger reaction to Black men who date outside their race than Black women who do the same. But when men do the same, it’s often seen as a betrayal. Christelyn: Actually, I’ve experienced that in the reverse.Historically, Black men have been dating and marrying interracially at higher rates than Black women for the last 40 years.The internet has been an absolute boon for people who are open to dating interracially.Places online like Interracial Dating allows for men and women to take all the guess work out of wondering whether or not a non-Black person is open to them.
Christelyn: Black women have a unique set of challenges in the dating market.
Christelyn: I have tremendous respect for Shonda Rhimes. Neither of those characters are the caricature of a Black woman.
We have layers, and like all women, we are complicated and splendid creatures.
No offence but these girls are wasting their time limiting themselves to one race.
Plus what I've seen on TSR and from my mates, white guys don't really go for black girls.