As a group, Asian women are actually found that Asian female users were most likely to get messages from male users — but only if those men were not Asian.
The tendency of non-Asian men to fetishize Asian women, lusting after their "exotic" appeal or assigning them offensive stereotypes, has turned online dating for Asian women into a minefield of unwanted sexual advances and problematic questions.
As good as it might feel for those with white privilege to pretend we live in a "post-racial" society, one has only to give most dating sites the most cursory of glances to shut down this notion altogether. However, have you ever taken an Implicit Association Test for racial bias? You might find the results surprising.) One response to the micro-aggressions experienced on swipe-to-reject dating apps is the proliferation of racially-specific apps like Black People Meet, Asian People Meet, Latino People Meet, Native American Dating (and just to keep things driven-snow-pure, Where White People Meet).
The biases and snap judgments that permeate our society are amplified through technology, and the swipe-to-reject models of popular dating sites can be utterly frustrating for people of color, because judgments based on photos are highly susceptible to the stereotypes and implicit biases that come into play when viewing photos of strangers. While these sites can seem to offer safe spaces for people looking to exclusively date people with shared cultural identities, the need for separate, race-siloed spaces to feel safe strikes me as outdated.
As an Asian woman, I can spot the Asian hunters miles away. I'm not Chinese, either.) The comedian Jenny Yang has a brilliant sketch about "Yellow Fever" that lets me know I'm not alone. Take it to the Trump rally, or maybe one of those whites-only dating sites. In all the depressing news from OKCupid, there is a silver lining in the form of a curious trend: the percentage of people who say that they would strongly prefer to date someone of their own race has dropped significantly since 2009, and is still on the decline.
Even as a barely adolescent kid, my creep sensor knew something was really off about comments like these. I find this discrepancy between belief and action fascinating, because it poses a challenge.
Creating safe spaces online where ugly prejudices can't show face is critically important.
Race Fetishization From Puccini's Madama Butterfly to Miley's cornrows, pop culture's worship of the exotic is as ubiquitous as it is downright creepy. I like clear, direct communication.) "I like pretty Chinese women." (Sorry, buddy... The best they can hope for is to become "the exception" to your racist rule. It fundamentally lacks empathy, it debases people, and it's astoundingly wrong. Well, for starters, we can stop rationalizing our racism as a legitimate preference and realize that if we take the time to look for it, we may find something worthwhile, fascinating and beautiful about virtually every human being on the planet.Encountering someone's words, attitudes and opinions about the world before making decisions about them based on appearance is one way to sidestep the stereotypes we've been conditioned to see when we look at each other, and judging from the growth of our community over the past few months, it's a model that's working.Chemistry isn't about tired tropes; it's about an inexplicable one-to-one connection with another human being.The ultimate goal should be to banish negative ethnic stereotypes once and for all.For Asian women, that includes not reducing a complex person into a fantasy all the while erasing diversity within Asian communities.